Sometimes, actually most times, the biggest thing holding us back is our own fear. Whether it be fear of a situation, or fear of doing something, fear of something big, or fear of something small. Our fears can be our own worst enemy.
What do you fear?
When you are trying to conquer your fears, it’s a good idea to know exactly what it is that you fear. Having a journal or a place where you can write down your fears and what has caused them is a good way to organize your thoughts.
Do not underestimate organization. A lot of times, when you just leave your thoughts swirling around in your mind, your fears become greater than they actually are. This is called catastrophizing. Remember, it’s important not to exaggerate, so write down your fears!
Making a plan
When you are assessing the what, how, and why of your fears, begin to consider “What is the worst thing that could happen if I face my fear?” Sometimes, we are terrified of the outcome and not the actual fear itself.
For example, it took me years to be able to achieve a handstand. It wasn’t that I was afraid of the actual handstand itself; I was afraid of falling. Even though, I had fallen many times in other inversions with no injury or pain, for some reason falling in a handstand seemed petrifying to me.
It was this irrational fear that prevented me from achieving my true potential. So, once I recognized that fear, I made a step by step plan on how to dissolve my irrational thinking. It was really a case of my brain being my own worst enemy and not my physical capabilities.
Facing your fears
Once you’ve identified your fears, and have started a plan to dissolve them, now you have to put your plan into action. This might be to most difficult thing you’ve ever done. This might take days, weeks, months, or even years.
No matter how long it may take you to face and conquer your fears, remember that everyone’s timeline and path is different. As long as you continue to actively face your fears, you will eventually conquer them.
Should you face your fears?
With all that said, not every fear needs to be conquered. There are things that we fear for good reason. So, it’s helpful to evaluate whether that fear is rational or irrational, necessary or unnecessary.
When you are making a plan to face your fear, consider writing down the pros and cons. Ask yourself:
- What will happen once I face my fear?
- Will facing my fear change anything?
- What kind of impact will it have on my daily life and on myself?
- Is my fear holding me back from anything?
Take it easy
Remember that things like this take time. Some fears are larger than others. Always take things step-by-step, and as you continue along your journey, don’t be afraid to look back and see how far you’ve come. Being able to recognize the changes you’ve made is a crucial step to knowing when you’ve conquered your fear.
Facing the things that can sometimes hold us back can be powerful for self-transformation. Don’t rush it.